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Why We Quit Homeschooling

Why We Quit Homeschooling

Well this past month has been a whirlwind of change in our house. We had been happily homeschooling for 5 weeks when I received an e-mail from a previous employer. His message welcomed us home from Ireland and mentioned that if we were still ever interested in sending our children to their private school to let him know.

We WERE still interested! We’ve always dreamed of sending our children there!

A little background:

10 years ago I worked at this school (A Classical Christian School). Back then there were only 2 of us in the main office and just about 100 students in K-12. Now the school enrollment has more than doubled! There are nearly a dozen people working in administration at the school. I loved my job there and only left because we had our first child. The school is amazing.

When I worked there I got to know most of the graduates. They were all hard working students and left an impression on me. I was impressed with their maturity, respectful attitude and self confidence.  The teachers were outstanding and most of them were still there 10 years later. The school values parent involvement and classrooms are comfortable spaces, with couches for reading times, books lining the walls. The elementary grades still learn extensive grammar, Latin and cursive handwriting, subjects that we value.

Our Decision:

We decided to meet and see what our options were.  The meeting went so well. It was great to reconnect with the headmaster (I was his assistant 10 years ago). I could clearly see the improvements and growth in the school. We knew going into the meeting that we can not afford the school. We are still getting back on our feet, paying off plane tickets, etc. We simply could not afford the mortgage payment tuition each month. Thankfully, the school does offer financial assistant and other help. God truly blessed us with an affordable option. We could not believe it. It was a GIFT. One week later our children were dressed in their uniforms and heading off to their second FIRST DAY OF SCHOOL!

So yes, we quit homeschooling! eek!!

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QUESTIONS:

Was it an easy decision?

My honest answer: YES. I had peace about this decision the moment I received his e-mail. I know that’s hard to understand but it was this overwhelming sense of peace that did not leave. My husband was quick to agree. Because this school has always been our TOP PICK for schools to send the children to we really saw this whole situation as an answer to prayers that we’ve prayed for years.

Why not keep homeschooling?

We are homeschooling advocates. Yes. We believe that homeschooling is an excellent choice. Homeschooling was going so well. The kids had adjusted well and were working hard. We were all working well together and to be honest there wasn’t much friction. I loved being “that” homeschooling mom. I loved the time together every day.
The deciding question was, “What is best for our children?”  Yes homeschooling was going great but I knew that this school had SO MUCH MORE TO OFFER. Yes, It’s humbling to admit, but for us it was a no-brainer. If you are familiar with Classical Education (see below)  you will understand what I mean. Our children will now receive an education that I, personally could not offer them at home. It was simple.

Did you feel like you failed?

This is really my question to myself.
No. I did not feel like I failed.  This is really unusual for me. I’m usually quick to feel like a failure when I don’t follow through with the original plan. I usually believe the lie that I couldn’t do it so I gave up. Many times I have given up on other things but this was NOT THE CASE. I was not giving up. I was making the better choice for our children.

Will you ever homeschool again?

MAYBE. We would love to continue to send our children to this school as long as it is what is best for them. If for any reason we find that it is not in their best interest to keep them in private school then we will pray about and discuss homeschooling again.

What about public school?

We are not an anti-public school family. Actually, the schools in our area are excellent and would be a great choice for us if or when we agree that it is what is BEST for our children. Right now, where we are currently living, it is not the best choice for us. Is it a good option, yes. Do we feel a peace about sending them to public school right now, no. Sometimes God makes these personal family decisions easy by giving you clarity or peace, we’re thankful He has done that for us.

What is a Classical Education?

The article by Susan Wise Bauer describes a Classical Education:

“Classical education depends on a three-part process of training the mind. The early years of school are spent in absorbing facts, systematically laying the foundations for advanced study. In the middle grades, students learn to think through arguments. In the high school years, they learn to express themselves. This classical pattern is called the trivium.”

You can read the full article here:  What is Classical Education? by Susan Wise Bauer

What Now? What will you do all day…

I can’t tell you how many people ask me this. I’m surprised how many Stay-at-Home-Moms ask!

I usually answer, “Eating bon-bon’s and watch Netflix all day of course!

{insert sarcasm!}

No, I am not going back to work full-time. Kevin and I discussed the options for about 2 minutes! haha! I work from home and have for 8 years now! I will continue to work with my current clients and possibly add 1-2 more clients this year. My goal is not to simply fill my calendar with things to do, or stay busy making money. This past year God has really worked on my heart in this area. I’ve learned to stop striving and rest, to stay healthy and invest in our family and marriage. Yes, I will continue working, I love my clients and love working. My priority is our FAMILY and HOME. It is holy work, homemaking, raising children and caring for our husbands.

I’m looking forward to the year ahead. To see what God has in store for our family. And don’t you worry, my days are FULL. I’m amazed at how quickly the every day things can fill up our to-do lists.

Someday I will enjoy those bon-bons and hours of Netflix… someday.

What about Hey Donna? What will you blog about?

When we moved back to the US this summer I was so excited to start blogging about our homeschool adventures. I was ready to dive head first into sharing our homeschool journey, continuing to review homeschool curriculum and encourage other homeschool moms. One important thing hasn’t changed. I’m still a busy mom. I’m balancing raising children, homemaking, school, sports and working from home. Life is so busy! I plan on continuing to share homemaking tips and recipes. I hope to begin sharing about our transition back to the US and changes we’ve made as a family because of our time over-seas. I’m looking forward to encouraging work-at-home moms and share more about my passion for productivity and all things paper.

 

I would love to hear your questions. I know homeschoolers have lots of opinions so please let me know your thoughts. I’d love to continue the conversation in future posts.

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  • Rebekah
    October 6, 2015 at 10:19 pm

    I am so happy for you and this amazing gift you have been given. It really is amazing that your family’s first choice for schooling became an affordable option for you.

    Best of luck to your kids, to finding time for important Netflix binges, and to the changes in your blog’s direction! 🙂

    • Donna
      October 8, 2015 at 9:12 am

      Thanks Rebekah, you know what a blessing this is! We are thrilled!

  • Jesenia
    October 6, 2015 at 10:36 pm

    I homeschool our son and my daughter does virtual charter school. We’ve also looked into private Christian school as an option. I’m not opposed to it and truly believe that each family is unique. Only God knows what’s best for our kids and our family’s needs. That’s great that you and your husband used wisdom and allowed God’s prompting to lead the way. The kids look adorable by the way. Looking forward to your future posts. 🙂

    • Donna
      October 8, 2015 at 9:14 am

      Jesenia, I love that your family has a variety of schooling. I love that you are doing what is best for each individual in your family. Hope to catch up with you soon!

  • Lisa @CreativLEI
    October 7, 2015 at 9:05 am

    I’m so glad you’re sharing your family’s journey through these decisions. I’m excited to follow along this adventure with you, during our transition season too. Can’t wait to hear more.

    • Donna
      October 8, 2015 at 9:14 am

      Oh, Lisa, You have been such an encouragement through this process. You’re a blessing and I can’t wait to road-trip with you next week down to the 2:1 Conference!

  • Jenn Roberts
    October 8, 2015 at 1:03 pm

    How could homeschoolers incorporate classical education from home? I’d love more information about that! Also, I’d love info on being a VA as well 😉 Thanks!

  • KATHY
    November 1, 2015 at 2:33 pm

    I love this post! So well written. I love how you share your journey, and I love the new website design by the way. Eager to hear you share your everyday habits and be inspired!

    • Donna
      November 3, 2015 at 8:18 pm

      Thanks Kathy, it’s been a crazy journey so far! Thanks for your kind words.

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